Hi Marykrn. I don't know your situation. But, f you live in a city find some photographers who are successful in your town and assist them. You'll see a lot more gear that you can ask what and why about and see the shooting situations in which they are used.
:TLDR: - If i had to start from zero, I'd buy the white plm, a decent stand, radios, + an umbrella bracket. I'd go out and make a ton of pictures. Maybe learn some things. Then when the time came to go for big lights get the Genius package and a pop up reflector Learn some more then buy more stuff. If you can't work your speedlite off camera you're going to be way in the weeds with 3 lights... on to the longform.
Before we begin: DON'T BUY CHEAP STANDS !!!DON'T BUY CHEAP STANDS!!! DO NOT BUY CHEAP STANDS!!!
First off, go here -
http://strobist.blogspot.com/2006/03/lighting-101.htmland LEARN a little before you spend and find yourself with a bunch of junk you don't need.
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There is no one size fits all light set. Trying to get everything you might need is the best way to spend money you don't need. Get two lights (some even say start with one), then use them until you find a limitation, then get another. The same with modifiers. The PLM umbrellas in the package are quite versatile, and will do much of what you need. The 86" are likely too big for your space.
It's nice to see TS being honest about the right way to build a kit. This is more proof [to me at least] that I made the right choice in going with PCB products.
1 CST and 1 CSR [assuming all of the rest of your lights can be slaved] is a good start for reliable radio gear. Remember to find an inexpensive case to put them in [an old point & shoot case will do]. Honestly, if you're just getting started you don't need a cybercommander. It's just an added layer of frustration. Add layers of complication as you LEARN. My Cybercommander is valuable in my kit because I know the what and the why of my gear. You have to know what the exposure triangle is before you can understand what a light meter is telling you.
The white 51" PLM [or the 64 if you want to shoot full legnth [get the one with the speedring for versatility] with black cover + front diffusion is a fantastic modifier [eventually, you'll 'graduate' to the soft silver. Don't start with silver. It's like learning to ride a Harley instead of a tricycle] it's basically a much better/durable version of the standard 3 in 1 umbrella. You could spend the next 3 months with just this, your speedlite, a CST + CSRB, an umbrella bracket and a decent stand and if you shot every day you'd have taken the first 3 steps of a million mile journey.
These -
http://www.ebay.com/itm/191242028010 are also great. Not as nice as the front mount Buff collapsable. But, it's a good jump off point for a "controllable large soft source". This offers more control via the grid and you can use it with the diffusion off for "snappier" but still soft light. I recomend this particular piece of kit over the Buff octa because it works with speedlites and Bees/Einsteins with less fuss. As you LEARN you'll come across concepts like "quality of light" and you'll see why the Buff octa and the Elinchrom deep are "better"
DON'T BUY CHEAP BAGS!!! DON'T BUY CHEAP BAGS!!! DON'T BUY CHEAP BAGS!!!
If shooting on white is part of your gameplan. You can shoot a group of 3-4 adults on white with 2 B400s and a speedlite. It's easier with 2 B1600/Einsteins and a B400 though. Watch this and LEARN -
http://dedpxl.com/the-many-uses-of-white-seamless-pt-1/ Watch it 3 times. Shoot some loved ones in this setup and get comfortable with the what and the why BEFORE you shoot a client in it. Nothing is worse than floundering in front of the people who are paying you. By the way: Barndoors are expensive. You can use $4 sheets of fomecore to do the same job. However, that's not nearly as conveinent as a set of barndoors.
Have I mentioned? DON'T BUY CHEAP STANDS!!! DON'T BUY CHEAP BAGS!!! DON'T BUY CHEAP STANDS!!!
Don't forget bags. Better bags and stands are more important than another head. Cheap bags and stands will end you up in the miserable world of "out for repair". That means your cheap stand just cost you a repair bill or the frustration of replacing broken kit. Crappy bags leave your kit disorganised. Which "doesn't matter" until you're flopping around in front of a paying client. I wish someone would bring back the "suitcase insert" those things were amazing...
Good luck
Kenn Rhem